I-Messages

SOURCE: Leon County Adult & Community Education Career Education Guide

"I - messages" tell how a person feels. They are honest statements that are less likely to cause the other person to get angry or defensive.

Examples:

     I get distracted from my work when I hear you talking with friends.
     I need some time to myself.
     I am allergic to perfume.
     I have trouble working when it is so cold in here.
     I can't work when there is so much out on the work space.
     I get swamped with work when you aren't here.
     I get behind when I'm all alone opening up in the morning.
     I find it hard to work when it isn't quiet.
     I need to tell you something important.
     I get frustrated when I can't tell you about something important to me.
     I think it's important that our appearance look professional.
     I feel left out when everyone goes off to lunch without me.
     I see you are in an outrageous mood.

Examples:

     You make too many personal phone calls.
     You drive me crazy.
     You wear too much perfume.
     You keep the thermostat too cold.
     You keep the work space too cluttered.
     You take too many breaks.
     You are always late.
     You talk constantly.
     Your singing is driving me crazy.
     You listen to me.
     You never listen to me.
     You look terrible.
     You never pay attention to me.
     Your colors don't match.